We’re all human, and it’s true – how ever you may interpret this. We all have emotions and feelings. In fact, we all get emotionally attached and feel things in certain situations. Obvious? Yes. Do we always accept this? No.
As humans, we have the ability to open our hearts and minds to people that we think deserve it. It is one of the most beautiful and scary things that we are capable of. This type of vulnerability can seriously fuck with your mind…because that one thing we are able to do, we cannot control of others.
As much as we try to understand and interpret situations, we are only in control of one life: our own. Outside of this, we are victim to the possibilities of the world and others. Accepting this is a step towards control. The less time consumed worrying about others, is a minute more focusing on what should take precedence – your own life. But it’s when you become so fixated on the things you cannot control, does the mind begin to wonder and fall astray to this ambiguity. Never actually finding satisfaction, because how can you?
I have recently gone through some shit where this has become extremely obvious.
The idea of emotions and feelings should never deter you away from a situation, it should definitely be considered, but you cannot always make choices based on your “heart”. I have been told that I need to work on my empathy towards others. I can see where these comments are coming from, and I don’t necessarily disagree. There is definitely a time and place for emotion, but when it becomes the sole thing controlling your decisions, how is that healthy?
The issue I have is that people assume that you understand their perspective or are too egotistical to open their minds to others. Often, we think we are meeting someone halfway – but we really aren’t. We’re stubborn by human nature to believe that our way, is the right way. When others disagree or think differently, we have the choice to accept this and adapt or turn a blind eye and continue down our own path.
I have learned to become a sponge. Whether it be business related or personal, everyone has an opinion. As a sponge, it’s your job to listen – absorb the necessary information, but also release the irrelevant. The more you open your ears, the more you will grow in the long run. There is so much we can learn from each other. At the end of the day, it’s whether or not you can acknowledge that everyone is their own unique individual and has their own agenda – only when this happens, can you now do the exact same with yourself and your life.