A Series: Dating at 21 (Pt. 5)

Part 5: To Be Continued…

The reason I wrote this series “Dating at 21” is not because I am anti-dating like some people might have assumed (hi mom). So I apologize if that is what came across.

I love the idea of spending good company and establishing a unique emotional connection with someone in a way other than what you have with friends or family. That being said, my point throughout all of this was to express that no matter what, make sure you are committing to it because it compliments you and not completes you. This is something I have recently realized and strongly believe in. It is something that I am truly practicing in my life and I believe is the biggest thing keeping me sane throughout all the noise of what is expected of dating in society.

The amount of times I’ve heard stories of couples that say they “feel lost without the other” or “don’t know who they are anymore”…but were you not real or complete before? A person shouldn’t be filling holes in their life; like how would you feel if you found out you were just a bandage for someone else’s wound?

There is no right or wrong way to date, there is not even a proper time or behaviour we should be following. Life is funny that way, what might seem like the perfect person can be tarnished because of the particular time period or place you are in your life. As well, it can work the other way – where the timing is perfect to be settling down, but you just haven’t found that right person.

Don’t be afraid to take risks and do something because at the end of the day, you’re always learning and growing – but you can’t that by sitting still and afraid of uncertainty. Take that chance on something you never thought you would and maybe something great will come out of it. If not, well at least you can say you tried.

This is my last post in this series, but is definitely no where near a finished story. “Dating at 21” has been my real-time perspective of evaluating where I am right now and what I want / where I want to be. Knowing me, this could all change by the end of the year, next month, or even in the next week. But knowing that I’ve shared all of this so openly and honestly makes me really happy.

I hope it inspired you to write your own “Dating at ___” story. You might think it’s nothing, or just some irrelevant opinion – but you wouldn’t believe how alike we all are. Learn from my stories, and let me learn from yours.

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